Life happens all around us.
No amount of rearranging or juggling our schedule will get us out of events
that aren’t what we hope or planned for. It is in that constant status of
happening that we learn how few of life’s events we have in complete, total
control. When something goes contrary to our hopes and plans, knowing where we
can find elements of control is a major asset. An asset that can prevent us
from contributing to a worsening situation and can even remove much of the
pressure from an event that’s contrary to plan.
The Activating Event,
Thoughts and Consequences, or ATC, model taught by our Master Resiliency
training Performance Experts at the Comprehensive Soldier and Family Fitness Training
Center provides us with the ability to pull apart raw, uncensored thoughts
after an event and ultimately peel back the onion on the emotions we feel and
reactions we have because of these thoughts.
The thoughts we allow to
dominate us are the ones that will determine our reactions to events. The
importance of understanding the clout our thoughts carry in our lives enables
us to understand patterns of viewing the world around us.
If we constantly interpret
events as a violation of our rights, we could find ourselves constantly
offended and living in a pretty tense world. We should consider restructuring
our thoughts in regard to these events to become more resilient. The ATC model
and the training to use it are valuable to defuse our life happening events.
Adversity strikes when it
strikes. We can’t help that. We can add control by reflecting on a specific,
recent and vivid event and recalling how we thought, felt and behaved afterwards.
We may not have ultimate
control over the circumstances within which we find ourselves, but we can
employ control over our thought process with a little training and practice.
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